Weddings and Parties

Make Your Event Unforgettable!

With Desiree May you will get...

  • A custom choreographed dance to meet your vision, style, and ability
  • Private sessions in a private studio with no other surrounding distractions. 
  • Help and support with selecting a song, music editing, and coordination with the band or DJ
  • A convenient location and time for your sessions based on your area.

What Is Your Vision?

First Dance

Your first dance is the official celebration of your love and commitment.

Parent Dance

Capture a meaningful moment dancing with your mother or father.

Wedding/Cotillion Party Dance

Dance with up to twenty of your closest friends and family. It’s sure to keep the dance floor full.

Reception Dance

Learn social dance styles to popular style music to showcase during your dance party.

A Moment to Always Remember...

There are several combinations of packages with a discount for multiple lessons and/or dances. Click here for rates.

Preparing for your dance

Don’t Use Artificial Fog

We discourage using fog because during the dance the audience will be unable to see the couple.

Fog might also confuse and visually impair the couple themselves during the dance. This might be even more uncomfortable if the groom in unused to dancing with the bride while she is in her wedding dress.

Banquet halls may sometimes wish to surprise couples by introducing artificial fog during the dance without first consulting the dancers. Be sure to let them know in advance if this is something you definitely do or do not want on your wedding day.

Dance First – Eat Later

After your happy (but stressful) day you will be tempted to sit down, rest and sample that delicious looking buffet you’ve been planning for months. A word to the wise;
dance first, eat later! Once you’ve started “just a taste” you probably won’t be able to stop and once you’re full you probably won’t be able to dance. At least not the way you’ve been practicing for. Dance your dance, impress your audience and then sit down, relax and eat to your heart’s desire. You deserve it!

Also refrain from alcoholic beverages before your dance. Drinking to boost your bravery never works and leads to disappointing results.

Wedding Outfits

Men’s Outfit 

There are a couple of things to consider with the men’s outfit.

First of all men’s suits are traditionally buttoned up with the bottom button open. You will need to pay attention to how the suit sits on you while dancing. During certain dance moves, such as twirling your partner, if the suit does not sit well on you and does not have enough arm and/or elbow freedom, it will have a tendency to bunch up on the shoulder creating and ugly, bulky effect. It may also restrict arm and shoulder movement and be uncomfortable during the dance.

If you choose to be wearing a vest without the jacket during your wedding dance, you may want to consider getting a vest that is longer than your belt line and covers it from the back during dancing. The reason for this is that if you bend even slightly, your shirt will come untucked from your pants and bulk around between the short vest and belt. If your vest is a bit longer this will not be a visual issue.

Another things you might like to keep in mind is that vests that have no adjusting belts on the back and just have a plain straight back are more aesthetically pleasing.


Strapless Dresses 

During previous years brides have shared some personal wedding experiences regarding their strapless dresses. On more than one occasion, brides tended to lose a lot of weight during the time leading up to their wedding day. Unfortunately they did not consider re-adjusting their dresses and ended up stuffing the tops only to have the stuffing fall out during their dance performances. As you can imagine this was quite embarrassing.

During dress fittings brides might consider trying the steps they learned for their wedding dance routine (choreography) in order to see and feel how comfortable and safe they are. If there are any concerns or difficulties, please talk to your dance instructor immediately to adjust your dance pattern.


Wedding Shoes

As with the wedding gown, it would also be quite useful for you to either dance a few dance classes with your actual wedding shoes or a quite similar pair with the same size heels. This makes it much easier to cope on your wedding day.

For ladies who aren’t used to wearing high heels, this is the best time for you to practice. You need to start wearing heels as soon as and as often as possible to train your feet and calf muscles to adapt, otherwise they will be very sore on your wedding day.

Many brides reach the moment of their wedding dance and are so tired they end up dancing barefoot or in flats. While it is understandable that you are exhausted after so much pre-wedding planning and all day on your feet on your actual wedding day, do not “heel-down”. What that means is, perhaps consider wearing (and having your dress adjusted to) lower heels for the whole day and then wearing higher heels for the actual dance. This way your feet won’t be killing you and not only that, but your dress will, ever so slightly, be lifted off the floor. This will allow for ease of movement on the floor as well as preventing both you and your partner from stepping on your dress and tripping, which is more likely to happen when you “heel-down” instead of up.

If you are planning to continue with Ballroom Dance Lessons as your future family hobby it is a good idea to get real dance shoes for your Wedding First Dance. They are much lighter, softer and more glamorous compared to regular shoes.

Men’s shoes are usually quite stiff so it might be a good idea to get started by breaking them in on a clean dance floor beforehand.


Shoes With Embellishments

Beware of embellishments on your wedding shoes; they may catch onto your dress and can either trip you, ruin your dress or both. Since it is quite possible that you will not be practicing dancing in your wedding shoes and dress, anything unexpected could also throw you off your routine and ruin your dance. Just keep in mind that although you want to have the perfect pair of shoes to go with your perfect day, underneath your dress nobody will be focusing on your shoes!


Contact Lenses

Please bring your contacts to each lesson so you can practice with them and get used to having them while you dance.

If you are used to wearing glasses but are planning to wear contact lenses during the wedding, please give yourself enough time beforehand to adapt to them because your eyes and brain need to get used to them to adjust your balance. Often contacts delay your reaction because they are “floating” on the surface of the eye and do not allow you to see things exactly at the time they occur. There can be a slight delay, which may make it difficult to keep balance and coordination of the movement.

Comfortable Dancing

Smaller steps mean more comfortable dancing. A huge stereotype of dancing is that you need to take big strides. Your steps should be as close as possible to walking to make your dance safer and more comfortable for both of you.

Men sometimes worry that they will forget their dance pattern. There is no need to find more reasons to stress on your wedding day. Do not be afraid to just stop and start again from a move you are most familiar with. Even in ballroom dance competitions if a couple needs to stop and start again from wherever is needed, it does not count as a mistake. Good dancers are not those who do not make mistakes, but those who do not show them.

Adrenalin

Dance performance will almost always excite and invigorate you.

It will possibly also make you nervous. The reason behind all this is your pumping adrenalin. Usually people feel the pressure of everything coming together on their wedding day, the stress of performing for an audience, and wanting everything to be perfect. Keep in mind, though, that adrenalin can be your best friend or your worst enemy; believe it or not, it is ultimately your choice. This will require you to be aware of what’s going on inside you. An adrenalin rush can cause disorientation and/or blanking out, leading to the misinterpretation of musical rhythm and causing you to dance at a different speed from the music and confusing your patterns. There are a few other things you can do about this. If you feel like you need to go faster, do the exact opposite. Try to slow down and avoid chasing the beat or accelerating your movement, but instead wait for the next beat and fall in with it. Focus on the rhythm so that you don’t lose your pace on the dance floor.

Frequently Asked Questions

We’ve just decided to have a private wedding dance choreography and there’s not much time left. Is it possible to still learn something?

Absolutely! The basic steps in dancing are easy to learn and remember. Together we’ll decide upon a dance style. We will help you create a choreographed wedding dance that is both easy to learn and beautiful to watch. If you commit to practicing regularly, we are sure you will dance your wedding first dance gracefully and confidently.


How many lessons will it take to learn a wedding dance?

This is highly variable. The number of lessons will depend on:

1) How much time you will have to practice on your own.
2) How complicated or intricate you envision your showcase dance to be.
3) How quickly you are able to feel comfortable with the dance steps.

Some wedding couples decide to have a few extra lessons just before their wedding day. Others are fine with weekly lessons and feel ready to go when the day arrives.


How often should we come to wedding dance classes?

The fewer breaks between dance lessons you have, the less the lesson will be dedicated to reviewing material and the more the lesson can focus on creating new choreography and working on your technique and understanding.

On average couples tend to take one lesson a week, depending on how much time they have before their wedding. This doesn’t leave a big enough gap to forget what was learned during the lesson as well as more than enough time to practice on their own.

Once every two weeks is more of a review of material so as not to completely forget the material that was taught.

For wedding dance classes anything less often than once every two weeks is a waste of your time and money because you will not be able to remember the choreography as well and you may gain bad habits that are harder to fix once you become used to them.


When is the best time to prepare our wedding first dance?

To avoid feeling rushed before the big day, it’s best to plan your wedding dance lessons about three months in advance.


Do you provide choreography for mother/groom and father/bride dances?

Of course we do! Learning to dance is fun. It’s a wonderful way to include family members in the creation of memories and the sharing of your celebration.


I feel comfortable learning to dance, but my fiance/fiancee is less certain. Will we be able to learn something in spite of the differences in our confidence levels or abilities?

We make absolutely certain the lessons for your wedding first dance are enjoyable and without any unrealistic expectations. We are experienced in creating wedding dance choreography that is suitable for both you and your partner. You will take pride in the dance you learn and will want to show it off to your guests!


Are we responsible for selecting our own music?

Most couples have a song in mind that has special meaning for them. Others come to the studio with a type of Ballroom dance in mind and are open to exploring music appropriate for the style. Many couples come only with the desire to create something special. Together we select song that is just right for the day. Some couples have already imagined their first dance together as a newly married couple whereas other couples may be feeling uncertain about where to begin to create a lasting and memorable moment on the dance floor.